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5 Signs The Honeymoon Phase Is Over

Over time, the feeling of "newness" may wear off in a marriage. When you are first starting to date someone, it's exciting. Now, after some time, it feels predictable and calm. It happens, but some signs tell you are in a different phase of your partnership. There are actions you can take to build and improve your marriage once the honeymoon phase ends. Below are a few ways you can tell if you and your spouse are now entering a new part of your marriage.

5 Signs You're Out Of The Honeymoon Phase

1. You had your first argument

When you first start dating, and even early in your marriage, fights aren't as frequent. As you become more comfortable with each other, you can express thoughts without worrying about making a wrong impression, causing issues, etc. Flaws in your partner become more apparent over time, which leads to more heated discussions and disagreements. If you find yourself often arguing with your partner, you may be on your way out of the honeymoon phase.

2. You build trust

As time goes on, you begin to develop a deeper relationship with your partner, which increases trust. At this point, your relationship is becoming more and more genuine. You are more open with your partner and can rely on them to be there when you need them. The relationship transforms from exciting and new to reassuring and calm.

3. Express individuality

At the start of any relationship or marriage, you are more focused on your partner than your wants, wishes, and desires. Now that the honeymoon phase is over you working on your own endeavors. At this point, you are entering a very healthy phase and accommodating family, friends, and recreational interests. It's less about you as a couple and more of you as an individual.

4. A balance of "give and take"

If you are now in the momentum of "give and take" with your partner, you are compromising and setting boundaries. This stage of a relationship comes later on and is one of the main benefits of the end of the honeymoon stage.

5. You rely on each other

If you're out of the honeymoon stage, you will start to rely on each other more for trust, comfort, and security. At this point, routines are established, and you begin to get a real understanding of your partner. This is a serious phase of the relationship that develops after a certain amount of time has passed.

What to do after the honeymoon phase?

Now that the newness of your relationship has worn off, you may wonder how to reignite the spark. Trying an exciting activity together can improve your overall relationship and refresh the connection. Before you go to counseling, try to take the time to work on learning new things, going to unique places, and trying fun activities. By doing this, you clear a path to learn more about each other and rediscover what made you fall in love with your partner in the first place.


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