CREATING A DEEPER BOND
Searching for a relationship / marriage counselor can feel a bit like a game of roulette. Will the couples therapist help or discourage the relationship? Will professional marriage counseling make things better or worse?
My bias is to work to hold couples together. This can happen when couples learn to cultivate an emotional bond despite their differences.
Unresolved conflict can be taken as a sign that a relationship should end. But working it through can create deeper bonding.
Admittedly, there may be a need in some cases to consider an alternative path. However, even in situations where ending the relationship seems the right choice, we approach it thoughtfully, with concern for least damage to all parties.
Still, what may seem impossible can begin to look hopeful when couples can exit the trap of negative interaction cycles. Working to change the interaction itself, rather than each other, puts the couple on a common platform from which things begin to look more hopeful. And this can be the start of a new way of being together.
PROFESSIONAL MARRIAGE COUNSELING BY
"THE RELATIONSHIP REPAIRMAN"
Marriage is a life-long commitment to share and grow in an evolving relationship. There are often many life stressors that push and pull a couple to a place of dissatisfaction.
Relationship Repair Man offers professional marriage counseling to couples interested in understanding the dynamics of their marriage and how to build back the intimacy, trust, and enjoyment they once experienced together.
MARRIAGE COUNSELING EXPERTISE IN:
Building back Intimacy
Understanding the dynamics of the ‘honeymoon period’
Separation & Divorce
IS IT WORTH GOING TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING?
Married partners have each invested a tremendous amount of time, experiences, and emotions into one another. The goal of marriage counseling is to open up holistic communication to understand the differences between partners and to use the couple’s strengths to make the journey back to trust and happiness.
Our Marriage Counselor, Dr. Jim, has years of experience in working with married couples to help them express and share what is most important to the partners and bring their marriage reality to match what they want and desire from one another.
WHEN SHOULD WE GO TO A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR?
If you are asking this question, the answer is, “Now.” The sooner you address your problems and/or struggles, the more likely you are to find an agreeable solution. Get started: make your goals, determine the next step, and start making progress. Don’t wait until there is too much damage and alienation. Be sure to go in with an open mind, you are not going to marriage counseling to control the other person or to get the therapist to take your side. Keep your mindset on making progress.
Even if you end up splitting up in the end, Dr. Jim, as your marriage counselor, will be there to help you make peace with it.
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF MARRIAGE COUNSELING?
Helps to Refocus You
on Your Relationship
Marriage counseling will force you to step outside of your life for the session and focus you 100% on your relationship. With your therapist as a mediator, they will provide you with the guidance you need to communicate more effectively in a manner that does not aim to hurt one another. Effective communication is key to a successful relationship and your therapist is there to help you focus on what is most important. A marriage counseling environment will encourage open-ended communication and conversation and will get you to really focus on the two of you so you can escape whatever pattern is hurting your relationship.
Face Your Fears and Begin to Acknowledge Underlying Issues
If you find you are having the same arguments over and over, it is time to get past the surface level of these issues and really dive in to discover the real problem. Repetitive arguments are often symptoms of and underlying issue related to fear. Surface level issues are usually things such as finances, sex and parenting techniques but when you really get down to it, these arguments are often caused by underlying needs that have gone unmet and past emotional injuries. A marriage therapist can assist you with discovering these fears and fixing them in a healthy way.
Deepen the Intimacy and Connection Between You and Your Partner
Oftentimes, your relationship is plagued with distractions such as work, your kids, errands, etc. Having meaningful conversations that contribute to your growth may diminish due to simple lack of time as you lose focus on your relationship. Committing to marriage counseling will give you and your partner a dedicated time and space to deepen and grow your relationship. Having this set time commitment will also hold you accountable, putting this positive change into practice on a regular basis.